Red words are never heard
Red words hurt and burn
Sometimes I have to use orange words
Orange words until everyone learns

Golden words, I use golden words
Golden words when I speak
Golden words, full of golden feelings
Golden words for me 
repeat

Tips for Parents

• Temperature Talk - Explain that children are "golden children" who most of the time use "golden words."  Golden words make other children feel warm and they are words we use with our friends.  We never use red burning words because they hurt others.  However, there are times when we have to use orange or hot words to show someone else that their actions are hurting us.  Give examples, such as, in a firm voice, palm of the hand out, "Stop!  It makes me angry when you knock down my blocks."

The Research Behind This Song
The old adage that, "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me", is disputed by research on bullying.  Early expression of verbal aggression can have long-term consequences for both the teaser and the victim (Limber, 1996 and Kumpulainen et al, 1998).

This song is part of our Songs of Self-Control series, which consist of the following twelve song titles:
Breathe
Emotion
I Get Angry
Self Control
Stop and Think
Three Rules
Be Careful
Down in the Dumps
Golden Words
I Can Settle Down
I Can Wait
When a Kite Flies

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