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This simple song helps children understand anger, but also presents the key message that we must not let our anger consume us and react with hurtful behaviors. It offers a chance to learn alternative positive ways of dealing with anger and remaining in control.
Lyrics
I get angry.
I get angry, but I don't let the anger get me.
I get angry.
Really angry, but I don't let the anger get me.
Whenever I get steamed up.
I find a way to set the steam free.
I get angry.
I get angry, but I don't let the anger get me.
Tips for Parents
- Ask your child, "Can you think of a time when you were really really angry? What is a hurtful way to show our anger? What is a helpful way to show our anger?"
- Show your child how to be a "teapot" for this song. Pause the song and have them hold the "steam" in their cheeks and then have them "blow off steam." Pause the song and have children call out how they set the steam free by stomping there feet or taking a deep breath. Use during the anger section of any social-emotional curriculum.
- Mean Soup Bowl - (Based on the book, Mean Soup, by Betsy Everitt) Below is a long list of emotions that both Horace and his mother experienced throughout the book. Place a reasonable number of Horace's emotions (written on paper) in a bowl and put a matching number of Mom's emotions in a pot. Pull one emotion from each container and discuss the difference.
Horace's Emotions- Angry, Forgetful, Shy, Embarrassed, Squashed, Scared, Anxious, Mean, Stubborn, Growling, Bratty, Noisy
Mom's Emotions- Puzzled, Welcoming, Talkative, Thankful, Excited, Silly, Industrious, Playful, Loud, Cooperative, Loving, Protective, Creative - Drum Out Your Mad - Make drums using empty tins and packing tape. Show your child how you can beat very fast and hard on the drum to show that you are angry. Discuss how the force and rhythm that you tap the drum with can change as you get in control of anger.
- My Mad List - Discuss how children and parents blow off steam and write them down on a big sheet of paper. See if your child can find more ways than you can to handle anger.
The Research Behind This Song
The Devereux Foundation's Early Childhood Initiative has developed a simple four step process to help teachers and parents help children to manage their tantrums and anger. We call it the FLIP process.
- The first step is to acknowledge Feelings. Calmly and kindly tell children what feelings and/or behaviors you are seeing and hearing from them. Get to the root of the behavior to support emotional awareness. For example, "I hear you are teasing Faith. What are you feeling inside?"
- The second step is to set loving Limits. "We use friendly words here when we want to play with our friends."
- The third is to make Inquiries. "How could you get Faith's attention if she doesn't hear you the first time?"
- If there is no response to the inquiry, give a Prompt. "I like to be tapped on the shoulder. Want to practice on my shoulder?"
Books to Read with Children
When Sophie Gets Angry-Really, Really Angry, by Molly Bang
The Mad Family Gets Their Mads Out, by Lynne Namka
Sometimes I'm Bombaloo, by Rachel Vail
This song is part of our Songs of Self-Control series, which consist of the following twelve song titles:
Breathe
Emotion
I Get Angry
Self Control
Stop and Think
Three Rules
Be Careful
Down in the Dumps
Golden Words
I Can Settle Down
I Can Wait
When a Kite Flies
This song is available in the following formats:
- Download this song in MP3 format
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